May 2013
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Anonymous asked: so far all my life i haven't really cared about love and sex and stuff, because i have never been in love or had a crush or whatever, and never wanted a romantic relationship. So i know i'm aromantic. but i don't really know if i'm asexual. because i do watch porn sometimes. but i've never like looked at someone and thought mmm i'd like to have sex with that person......
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Anonymous asked: does demiromantic people use the colours of your flag or...?
April 2013
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Anonymous asked: 'ey, this is that same anon fer grey-demiromanticism. it's like, it isn't even ROMANTIK, it's just an extrordinarily strong platonic love? hell, that prolly makes little sense, but eh. also, it isn't even with all friends I'v gotten super-tight with, I never actually got a crush on my 100% best bro, so I don't ev en?
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marisaandasriel asked: Could anon be having intense platonic relationships? Intense squishes? Are they necessarily romantic, or do you really really love your friends? I giess what i'm trying to figure out here is, is it a romantic or platonic intensity?
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Anonymous asked: 'ey there, got rec'd here by another blog. do you know anythin' 'bout "grey-demiromanticism"? not grey/demiromanticism, but sort of like... a grey area in demiromantics. I ask cuz' I think I might be that? prime examples being that I've had 4 "crushes" on people, all of whom were super-close friends, and it was really just me getting...
marisaandasriel asked: Hey, I can't remember if it was your blog, or one of the other aromantic blogs, but someone said something about people speaking about themselves to describe the entire community. I had a feeling that might've been me (thearomantic/ SilencedByGreed), and I just wanted to say that I've amended that not. Posted a vid about it, in fact. Could you please publish this so those aromantics...
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Anonymous asked: Hi! I was wondering if any other aros/ace aros felt like they needed to connect with someone else like them. Most of the time I just treat it like I treat the fact that I have brown hair. But then other times I just feel isolated & I want to come out to everyone & I read as much aro/ace fanfic as possible. My friend thinks it doesn't deserve a lot of discussion but Idk. *shrugs*
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totallyace:
Here’s a blog especially for aromantics! Not necessarily asexual aromantics, but aromantics.
thearomantic.wordpress.com
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mondaydontmeananything asked: As a sexy aro myself who was feeling similarly isolated not long ago, I'm happy to talk to anyone who needs advice or help in that regard as well as recommend a few others who helped me feel less alone about it. :)
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Anonymous asked: To the anon who got cuddling referred to as sex: Do you go to my college? (FUS) Because seriously at my college if you are a girl (I know, you were a guy) and sit on the same couch as a guy and lean your head on his shoulder, half the campus is already planning your wedding and equates it to sex. It was supper annoying for my guy friend and I. I think by the end of the semester I'd given up...
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Anonymous asked: So I'm an aromantic asexual (homosensual), and all I want is a queerplatonic relationship with another guy and we can cuddle. I explain this to people, and this confuses them. How can I be asexual and want to cuddle a guy ("that's sex, you can't be ace") and why would you want to live with someone, "no relationships"...how do I better explain this to them because...
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TotallyAce: Aromantic →
totallyace:
The thing about asexuality- there’s no one way to be ace. You can be demi-sexual, gray-a (if you’re British), grey-a(if you’re American) and possibly all shades of Gray/Grey/Grau. You can still develop feelings for other people- in the romantic sense, if not in the nether regions.
Or, like me, you could be aromantic. Which is tough, because aromantics are a little more uncommon- or...
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Anonymous asked: do you have any advice for a sexual aromantic? i really hate how the asexual community act like they own aromanticism :/
March 2013
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Anonymous asked: I'd define myself as mostly aromantic, yet reading this tumblr got me a bit confused about the terminology. I kind of thought "romantic attraction" was basically this complex thing people call love (and which I'm pretty sure I don't experience as society tells me I should), or the desire for its social effects or something. Now I see you making a difference between those...
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Anonymous asked: not really advice, but in relation to the previous asker, I feel very similar, I'm aro/ace but I kind of don't want to be, I think it is because I want to experience this thing that everyone talks about, this thing that is apparently so important, and knowing that I can't experience it makes me want it more if that makes sense? Like, having the physical side, ie. sex but without the...
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vbfdoee asked: i don't know if i'm aromantic or not i just know that i've never experienced romantic attraction as i understand it but... i don't know how to explain it... i don't want to be aromantic?? like i want to have romantic relationships and everything it's just that i've never had those kinds of feelings and i'm afraid that that means i'm incapable of those...
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Anonymous asked: so sad tht media tries to brainwash u tht u need love. im aromantic & i know i am - no, im not going to magically change my mind! its like, why cant ppl accept my nature instead of putting us aromantics down & trying to change us?
February 2013
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Anonymous asked: (2/2) My advice is this: it would be best in the long run for both you and the other person to either end the relationship or redefine it together. Communication is key is any kind of relationship. I know very well that it's way easier said than done to confront it, but if no one is communicating and being honest, people are gonna get hurt and end up resenting each other. In the end, I...
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Anonymous asked: Is it possible to be a polyamorous aromantic?
Anonymous asked: Anyone else really really tired of society's romance hype? I'm 16, and kids in my generation are so focused on love and everything. I mean, I can't even tell people honestly that I don't have crushes on people because THEY THINK I'M LYING. They just don't understand. And pretty much all the shows and books and media out there involve romantic relationships. People are...
Anonymous asked: I'm not aromantic or asexual, but I stumbled upon this blog out of curiosity and saw something about being sad you couldn't have a wedding. Though it is rare, I have heard of people being in platonic marriages, or for non-romantic or sexual reasons!
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Anonymous asked: I am stuck in a romantic relationship I do not feel comfortable with and despite telling her how I feel, I feel trapped and unable to leave.
January 2013
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inconditus-zerik asked: Hello~ I was wondering, can you be between romantic and aromantic? Cause I don't either really apply, but I don't know what else is there?
Anonymous asked: Thanks for answering my question! (And for all the links) You're awesome!
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Anonymous asked: So...I don't know if I'm aromantic or not. Every time aromantics are brought up in my GSA, they only talk about asexual aromantics. I know I'm not asexual but I've never been in a romantic or sexual relationship before. So I was wondering I guess if romantic attraction would feel different than the platonic feelings I have towards my friends and family. Any advice?
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aromantic facebook group
this isn’t really a secret but it might be of interest. i just made an aromantic group on facebook bc i couldn’t find any really. http://www.facebook.com/groups/aromantictalk/
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marisaandasriel asked: To darrenchris, I'm fairly confident in being aromantic, so if you'd like to come talk to me, my ask is open.
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darrenchris asked: (First, I just wanted to say I think it's cool this blog is here because it's very hard to find a community focusing on aromantics and not just asexuals with a sub for aros in my experience--though maybe I just don't know where to look? Anyway, second, I was wondering if maybe there was someone who's... more... confident in their aro label who would be willing to talk to me?...
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Anonymous asked: I like holding hands, kissing, and I'm interested in sex but I don't think I've ever been romantically attracted to anyone because I've never experienced that more than friend attraction. It freaks me out when people confess to me because I don't feel more than just friends. I've had squishes and I think that I'd want to do romantic things with a person I had a...
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Anonymous asked: I have no idea what i'm doing but i always seem to end up in a romantic based relationship when i really don't want one. when i do they end up becoming friends with someone I like they end up wanting something more; i'm scarred to say no and tell them how i really feel cause then i know they'll back away from me or take our friendship to weirder level. I want out but i...
December 2012
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Anonymous asked: I really want to be in a Romantic Relationship with someone sometimes. However it's only in a -I'm missing out- sorta way. I've never experience romantic or sexual attraction, but again, I really would also like to be in a sexual relationship too. That's in a -I bet it would be really fun, release stress & be a nice experience- way. I don't really care, girl or guy,...
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crazyalliemonkey asked: I was wondering if I would be considered aromantic or not. There are times where I really wouldn't mind having somebody, then there are times where I could care less and wouldn't mind being single forever,it's very take it or leave it so to speak. I grew up with a lot of abuse, mainly emotional and verbal, so how do I know the difference from being aromantic to being scared from my...
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Anonymous asked: I really feel as if I force myself to have somewhat-sexual experiences so I don't make others feel bad. I actually haven't done anything in a year, but for a while when I began college, I would make out with guys I didn't even know and I never enjoyed it. When I heard the terms asexual and aromantic I felt better and tried to share this with others, but they insisted it was a faze....
November 2012
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Anonymous asked: A very close friend of mine admitted that he's in love with me,even though he knows I'm aro-ace. Every time he says he loves me,I can't help but feel guilty myself because he blames himself and thinks he's not good enough and that's why I don't "change". It hurts me when he says "you'll feel different when you meet the right one"but he's...
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summer-solas asked: YES! Phoenixnova713, I feel the exact same way!
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marisaandasriel asked: Does anyone else ever just feel sad because everyone around them says that romantic love is so great, and characters on TV look so sweet together, and then you remember that you can't feel that way because you just aren't capable of it?
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marisaandasriel asked: As much as I wish I were asexual aromantic, I'm not. I'm a sexually fluid aromantic, and I was just wondering how can I, or anyone else like me, get to that "first time" in a way that's comfortable for them? I want to have sex, I just don't want to want to have sex. And also, how can I come to terms with this? Being aromantic is fine with me, it's being a...
October 2012
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Anonymous asked: Does being an aromatic is a choice or something like inborn traits? I want to learn more of my orientation before jumping into conclusion.
August 2012
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Anonymous asked: The recent secret you posted with the "maple leaf" background, isn't actually the maple leaf. It's marijuana... sorry if this is uncalled for or rude, but I'm Canadian and I just... yeah, that's not a maple leaf.
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