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[TEXT:I usually, or once every blue moon (and blue it is indeed) I feel guilty over missing my ex-girlfriend, because I don’t miss her. The thing is that sometimes I just want to have someone for myself in a non romantic, non sexual way and not even in a exclusive way, I just want to have free reign to touch somebody else, And yes I know most people like cuddles, but I’m not your overly cuddly person, not just with anyone. So even if I voiced my want for hug to the over all population, well I’m specific with whom can or not touch me freely (the number is less than five) . So there I lie craving touch. Sometimes this all temtps me to court people and I always decide against it because well, not many seem to be looking the kind of relationship I want; which pretty much would be a primary platonic open relationship (becuase I don’t think I would be able to hadle an exclusive relationship ever). And then I find myself missing the simplicity of something I don’t really want with things I can’t really give.
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Hi I was just wondering, do you know what percentage of people are aromantic? I feel so alone because I have a massive squish on someone but I can't ask anyone I know for advice because it would sound like romantic attraction but it's different and they won't understand. I can't relate to anyone and I feel like I'd have to search the world just to find someone who understands what I'm going through. I feel like I love her sometimes but I know I don't.
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To anon- I don’t have a definitive answer as to how many people are aromantic, since to my knowledge no survey has been done, and it needs to take account aromantics from all areas of the sexuality spectrum. But you are not alone :)
As for advice, well I suppose it will depend on what you need guidance on, whether it is to have a better understanding on your feelings or to tell her how you feel. For starters though, I think a good idea is to ask yourself what you actually want?
I think it is also important to consider that, contrary to what pop culture may tell you, ‘love’ and ‘relationship’ are not inherently romantic terms. So I think that needs to be thought out too whilst you are still in the stages of figuring out what words you like best
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